Lately, I’ve been immersed in researcher/author Brene Brown’s work on connection, love & belonging and what gets in the way of experiencing these.
When Brene (can I call her that? I feel like I know her personally by now…) talks about belonging, she is very careful to point out that she’s not talking about fitting in.
By fitting in, Brene is talking about hiding who you really are, and following the crowd. “Chameleoning your way through the day.”
I get this. I’ve done this. I still do this sometimes.
Fitting in - being someone we’re not – actually gets in the way of belonging, because a true sense of belonging – that feeling of “being part of something larger than us” – can only happen when we are willing and able to present our authentic selves, flaws and all, to the world.
Yikes. That’s no easy feat. That’s hard in “everyday life” but it feels quadruple hard as a mind-body-life coach, because not only do I want to BE authentic, I also want to write authentically, on a regular basis, on the internet…..
That’s why my blog posts have been few and far between. It feels much safer that way.
But here’s the thing: There is a LOT I want to talk about. In fact, there’s a lot I feel CALLED to talk about. I have been coaching and training and reading and exploring for a few years now and I am feeling compelled to share what I’ve learned. I can’t keep it in anymore.
Why? Because I believe that what I have to say can help people. I suspect there are a lot of you out there who are living what I have lived and who are desperate for a way out of this particular version of hell. Your delicious lives are there, waiting patiently for you to make peace with food and your body.
So, deep breath, I’m setting an intention to share more of myself on my website and on my blog: More of my story, of who I am and what I believe, of other people’s stories, of tools that I think are worth trying out. I’m intending to be more courageous and to take the risk of being judged.
I got a nudge that I’m on the right track the other day, when I pulled the COURAGE card from my Soul Coaching deck.
Throw your shoulders back, step forward and take a risk! Be willing to listen to the beat of your own drum…. You’re a light bearer for others. Through your example, people find and act on their truth.
I can do this. This feels worth it.