Honoured to be Chosen

by Simone on November 23, 2012

Not so long ago, I received an email from a fellow Mind/Body coach, Jessica, congratulating me because my blog had been chosen by the Institute for the Psychology of Eating as one of the Top 50 Emotional Eating Blogs of 2012. 

Pardon me?  I was more than a little surprised by this, since I haven’t been doing much writing lately.  I was also a little suspicious… what is this “Institute” and why hadn’t I heard of them before?

Shortly after my email from Jessica, I received another email from Ellen Teig of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating.  In it, she wrote:

We wanted to provide our audience with a curated list of what we believe are the top Emotional Eating blogs that align with our philosophy and provide added value to the Internet.  After spending a few weeks combing through the web, we found your site and believe it is a resource our readers can trust. ~ Ellen Teig

So, I decided to do a bit of my own research.  I spent some time on their website, finding out what this institute is all about.  I checked out their Facebook page and got a feel for the kind of message they are putting out there.

The two big thing they seem to do are: 1)  Train people to become Eating Psychology Coaches  (I can’t speak about the quality of their training.  It looks interesting to me, but I don’t have any more information than that) and 2) Spread this message:

Stated in the most simple and practical way – what we eat is only half the story of good nutrition. The other half of the story is who we are as eaters. That is, what we think, feel believe, our levels of stress, relaxation, pleasure, awareness, and the inner stories that we live out all have a real, powerful, and scientific effect on metabolism. ~ “The Missing Ingredient in Nutrition” by Marc David, founder of IEP

Well, I have to say that I agree with this message – wholeheartedly.  And pretty much everything else I’ve read from them so far has resonated with me and is aligned with the philosophy on which I base my coaching practice.  So, I am excited to share this resource with you, and I am honoured that I have been recognized by them as one of the top 50 blogs about emotional eating.  Click this link and check out some of the other great blogs included in the Top 50.  I am a fan of a lot of these, including The Fat Nutritionist and Medicinal Marzipan to name a couple.

Happy reading!

 

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Giving Her a Voice

by Simone on June 20, 2012

The following excerpt is from an email I received from a fabulous woman I know that touched me deeply (shared with her permission.)

This fabulous woman – I’ll call her Sonja – originally wrote this passage in response to a dear friend of hers whose child was gaining ‘too much’ weight.  Sonja’s friend is sincerely concerned for her child and believes she is doing what’s best for her by focusing on helping her to lose weight.   Sonja felt all the emotions of her young self well-up in her as she remembered being a young child whose well-meaning family tried to help her lose weight.  She wrote a heartfelt email to her friend and shared with her what kind of help her 12-year old self truly longed for:

My 12-year-old self would have wanted you to look at me and tell me not to give a shit what society tells me I should look like… because becoming the best person I can be…whatever that may look like… is the most important thing.

I would want you to look at me and tell me that you have the same amount of love for me whether I’m my size now… or whether I’m 60 pounds lighter or 60 pounds heavier.

I’d want you to tell me to follow my heart, and to start doing things that really make me feel good… and to trust that I know myself enough to figure out what that may be.

I’d want you to say to me that even though it may be scary, in a world where all people care about is what others think about themselves… that the most important thing is to love and accept yourself, unconditionally… exactly as you are.

And that it will be hard to feel this way, because sometimes you’ll feel totally alone, and it takes work to remind yourself how awesome you are, when everyone else is either bullying themselves or bullying others. But if you stick with it, eventually the people around you will start to learn to love themselves too…

I have no idea what kind of an impact this email had on Sonja’s friend – whether or not she was able to really get this plea to reach out to her daughter in a very different way.  The reason I chose to share this email here was because of the impact it had on me.  I read these words and it felt as though my 12 year old self was being given a voice.  This was exactly what that younger version of me longed for – but didn’t know how to put into words.  I desperately wanted to know I was okay just as I was – no matter how big I believed I was, no matter how awkward I felt, no matter how fearful I was, no matter if I screwed up or got it wrong…

I read Sonja’s words and realized that even though I left 12 behind a long time ago, I still – at times – feel that same longing to be told that I am enough – just exactly as I am.  And today, what I know for sure, is that the person I long to hear this message from the most is me.

Thank you Sonja for giving my 12 year old self a voice!

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A Provocative Question

April 5, 2012

I love a good question.  The right question, posed at a key moment in a conversation, can have the effect of stopping us in our tracks.  It can somehow catapult us out of the story we’ve been spinning in our heads, and force us to look at this same story from a very different perspective. […]

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Mind-Body Magic (and a gift!)

February 24, 2012

I recently became endorsed by Abigail Steidley as a Mind-Body coach.  Abigail is a master at helping people heal themselves and their lives by enhancing the connection between their mind, body and soul.  She is also a master teacher and I am incredibly fortunate to have her as my mentor.  This training has transformed how […]

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Courage

October 23, 2011

Lately, I’ve been immersed in researcher/author Brene Brown’s work on connection, love & belonging and what gets in the way of experiencing these. When Brene (can I call her that?  I feel like I know her personally by now…) talks about belonging, she is very careful to point out that she’s not talking about fitting […]

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Were you ever fat like me?

September 30, 2011

A poem for the chubby kid in all of us ~ by Kalli Dakos (re-printed with the author’s permission) One day I asked my teacher A very important question While she was marking Our arithmetic books. I had waited a long time Because I was scared Of the answer. I loved Ms. Danforth, And I […]

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Joy tells it like it is… Interview with an intuitive eater

January 29, 2011

I’ve known the amazing Joy Tanksley since June 2009. We’ve never actually met – she lives in South Carolina and I’m a world away in Yellowknife – but I knew early on that our paths crossed for a reason, and I believe this even more strongly today. Our relationship has grown via Skype, where we […]

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Grateful

October 10, 2010

Happy Thanksgiving! I love children’s books, and a few years ago, I came across a book and song  that have become part of my Thanksgiving day ritual.   The book  illustrates the lyrics of a song by John Bucchino, titled Grateful.  Most of my friends roll their eyes when I pull out the book, but I […]

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Bittersweet

July 1, 2010

Happy Canada Day to my fellow Canadians…  I hope you’re celebrating in style. Today is a “birth” day of sorts for me too.   I am officially making simonegoudreau.com my new little home on the web, and saying goodbye to “Claim Your Life” – the old website I shared with my sister and fellow life […]

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